I felt this stop coming.
Call it a sabbatical or a permanent halt, the blog will stay up regardless. For some reason, I am not someone who can write one post a month because I lose interest and move to other things. I am all in or I am not.
Jack Molay, who for me has one of the best (if not the best), most inquisitive and intelligent blogs on gender variance, will still be able to count on my continuing support and comments. He asks all the right questions and is an invaluable resource for people questioning their gender identity.
As for me, I started again in April 2023 after an extended absence from writing and realized I had changed so much. This blog was becoming less about gender variance as I went along and becoming more expansive which showed how much progress I had made over the years.
As the world plunges into increasing geopolitical chaos this platform risks becoming more about outrage regarding the sheer incompetence and massive stupidity to come particularly on the US front. I don't need to raise my blood pressure when my aim is to remain balanced and calm during an age which feels compelled to openly celebrate the extremes of human idiocy.
My personal psych cleanup journey will continue indefinitely but with a sense of myself at my core which has never been this good. Things have coalesced so much that I know who I am to a point I had never imagined attaining. The combination of life experience and introspection have paid off.
Those of you on your own journeys of discovery will note the changes are more drastic as you look back than as you move forward with what appears sometimes to be no progress at all. It's the little steps we take that eventually lead to the right mental state and the management of our dysphoria increasingly gets easier. We find a solution that works which, for some of us, necessitates we take a medical route.
Also, letting go of fear of public scrutiny and opinion (including extended family) is mandatory particularly if we are old enough to know better. If you are scared of the public get over it or remain stuck. It's 2025 not 1985 and no one cares. If they do, it's their problem.
Every person is different and only you can know what is right for you. Towards that end, some understanding of our primary motivation and the amount of choice being exercised is of primordial importance towards the creation of an action plan. Call yourself what you like, but do the work without which a personal label is completely meaningless.
Answer this brutally honestly: who are you? If it's mostly about expression, good, enjoy it. If there's more, introspection is required. As you get on the right track you will feel increasingly better.
Lastly and very importantly, think for yourself before buying into a groupthink script for your life.
Blunt enough? I hope so. Live your life but just not scared all the time.
Be confident. Be happy. Be yourself.
'Nuff said.
(NB: I have left a contact form on the top right hand side of the web version of the blog for those who wish to communicate with me privately)