Funnel

For the longest time I said that I would never entertain any form of transition; not even a social one. I remember the sexologist Helene Cote (who I would see maybe once a year) telling me that it was usually those most adamantly opposed to it that would end up transitioning whereas many who came to the hospital program very gung-ho at the outset often backed out. 

It's an interesting process that can feel like entering a funnel. When you are at the rim you think no problem but as you near the spout you realize that at a certain point it becomes almost inevitable. 

I reflect on what being educated in a more open minded society as youth are today. They will be less likely to view their path as an increasingly constricting funnel because they have less reasons to push back. If anything, their danger might be being more gung-ho than they need to be because acceptance is so much higher despite there still being obstacles. 

Yesterday I watched a video of someone about my age ruminating on how to tell an immediate family which includes people who are adamantly against transgender people. They have struggled to get where they are after knowing from earliest memory that they had a gender issue. 

You could very clearly see that they were at the spout end of that funnel.