Reliance

Life experience has taught me that the only person you can 100% rely on is yourself. The rest of the people around you will be reliable to varying degrees (including spouses) because they are dealing with their own issues and their own traumas. This is entirely normal.

In essence what we want is self-reliance with the possibility to augment our lives with human connection with people who we know at times will disappoint us.

I don't understand why so many people look outside of themselves to have their deficiencies filled by someone else. They want someone to complete them when only they can do that.

Besides love is a two-way street where as much is given as is received. Today this seems entirely forgotten.