The pressure to be authentic

Life management with or without the presence of gender dysphoria can be vastly different. Since it is not a good idea to ignore the latter, either the person suffers greatly from improper management or outright ignoring or the family does from the eventual reveal. There simply is no elegant outcome in the majority of cases particularly for those coming out later in life.

I have no issue with gender variant people without dysphoria and even envy them somewhat. But then without dysphoria there would have never been any reason for my gender variance in the first place; no impetus for its existence.

In the end there was no choice but to side with wellness and peace and many of my transgender friends have moved on to some form of transition whether social or medical. The pressure towards authenticity becomes too great and the reasons to ignore fall one by one by the wayside.