It need not be a trap

I am not pretending to be a woman; I am myself. That decision must be made in the mind and settled on. 

You could say that I accidentally became a woman to the public over time as I treated my dysphoria increasingly seriously and confidently. The title is far less important than respecting my core and I am not obliged to explain my situation constantly to perfect strangers. If people assumed it, I just let them. 

I have sometimes later confided in others when we became closer and my instincts told me it was right. 

This can become a dilemma in the mind if we let it. For binary transsexuals in the past, becoming a woman was mandatory to attempt to lead a normal life because divergence from the binary was just asking for trouble. Plus they felt certain in their gut that they had been subject to a mistake of nature. 

Today many people who feel ambiguous about gender and its demands are less worried about the concepts of man and woman and what they entail. They settle on some formula of how to live in between or decouple from the obligations entirely as binary rules relax. 

Dysphoria does not demand medical transition from everyone and even then not everyone has the means or the possibility to follow that path. What they can do is find their best way to treat it and become more themselves in the process. 

They can decide that gender need not become a trap.