The magic formula

Compatibility and attraction don't always come together. Western culture has for a long time now not seen marriage in any way as transactional but instead as exclusively a search for a type of non-existent perfection which can include even thinking that our partner will help us with the qualities we lack.

Over 100 years ago women were more seen as the key family pivot and a precious commodity who themselves were more devoid of options than they have today. Marriage was a way out of the family home and to the care of a spouse who had more societal power and control. This is no longer true which explains much of the confusion today regarding the rules of engagement.

The internet is full of content regarding relationships; why they fail, how to make them work, how to get out of them, how to start one, etc. The thing is that it is not any easier or harder than it ever was compared to the time when we just put our heads down, committed to one and only later found out whether we had erred.