Which box?

Quora sent an email which featured recent questions posed on the site. One of them went as follows:

"Can a straight person identify as LGBTQ without it being cultural appropriation?"

He went on to explain that he was a straight male, married, father to 4 kids and he often dressed as a woman with the support of his wife. He said it was for comfort and not thrills and said he doesn't know which letter he falls under.

Of course this is a familiar theme and the answers he received were largely reassuring. Most said he didn't need a box to fit into and being happy is what counts and one was even jealous of his great legs. The photo accompanying the post is below and shows a tastefully dressed person possibly in his mid to late thirties.

We all want assurances that we aren't crazy or deviants but at the end of day this is always about us at our core. Our understanding of our identities must come from within and must not be defined through comparison. Even if we appear to fit within an established archetype, there is still too much variation among humans to keep adding letters to capture everyone into perfectly descriptive boxes.

For in the end, we are simply ourselves.