Time to think

Some young detransitioners are saying the same thing that I am; namely that you can be a masculine woman or feminine man without getting caught up in whatever prescription they think is obliged by the term 'trans'. In other words, your gender variance can be what it needs to be for you. 

The exchange I had with this young lesbian woman may have ended with her reflecting on my saying that a one size fits all formula is not correct. Some people do indeed benefit from transition while many would do well to stay as they are. 

In our aim to be inclusive we inadvertently made the umbrella so big that some youth decided that being 'trans' took on certain obligations in order to be authentic. This is how Ray Williams ended up in the regret category as an admitted fetish dresser although he didn't have any surgeries which means the harm was not all that severe. Today even self-described Femboys experiment with hormones because "why not". 

Those of us who were older had plenty of time to reflect on life choices made and far less likely to act in haste. But we appreciated so much being included in sorority even as we might have wished for a different life outcome had we been privy to both this climate and information in our youth.