We are always ourselves

Caryn transitioned in her twenties and if she did not tell you her history you wouldn't know she was transgender. Nevertheless she told me the other day day how much she deplores the term "passing". The simple reason is that she never stopped being herself and never went through a phase of pretending to be anything but.

Transgender people understandably may want to blend to be left alone. For that reason they may want to undergo treatments to better their chances to fly under the radar and bolster their authenticity and yet they are always themselves throughout.

There isn't any pretending.