Roughly six months after her breakup my daughter just started to date a new person. He is the same age (a few months older) and she confided that this time she felt a more piercing arrow than with her previous boyfriend upon first meeting.
I am old enough to know that this selection is a crap shoot with more variables than you can count especially given how young we often are when we make it. Therefore I do not counsel her other than to use as broad a criteria process as possible knowing that the perfect soul mate does not exist and that one pours a liberal dose of water into their wine once the initial courtship pheromones are depleted.
Years ago I posted British author Alain de Botton's brilliant talk on why this process can be so frought with challenge and, then as I do now, consider it almost essential viewing for anyone with any delusions about the nature of couplehood.
Without giving away the ending, I will just say that the term "good enough" should never stray too far from our lips.
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