Happy no mattter what

When you don't question or suffer an incongruence of core identity but seek expanded expression, there has never been a better time for it. Youth are out there everyday pushing the envelope of conformity such that few people even bother batting an eyelash. 

Women have had more latitude and beginning in the 1960's pushed against convention by first wearing pants then suits and then ties. By the early 1980's the Diane Keaton boyish look was not only normal but fashionably chic. 

The double standard was regrettable because today many older genetic males who grew up constrained to closets, are still afraid to step out of them and not always but mostly unjustifiably. Now that the entire breadth of expression and identity are exposed to the public we risk being confused for an iteration of one another which isn't bad or good but gives many people pause as to how they will be perceived.

Not too long ago I rode in the same metro car with a young transgender woman sitting not far from someone who many would not have had trouble calling a "crossdresser". Both seemed sufficiently non-chalant although I suspect few would have detected the young woman's origins and if they had she likely wouldn't have cared given her young age. The confidence was palpable and probably justifiable given how well she carried herself.

I like to make those distinctions because once we understand where we are we can more readily know what an adequate response should be to our situation. In all cases it should ideally imply confidence, comfort and happiness with who we are.

Trust yourself.