Victim

We will be more prone to fall for toxic theories of gender variance when we are despondent about our own situation. The more we absorbed the idea that we are abnormal, the more of a hapless victim we become. 

Since AGP is really just tranvestic fetishism renamed, some of us ended up with a dilemma. Did we have a fetish or were any sexual overtones part of a much broader picture trying to make itself known? 

Depending on the individual the answer was one or the other or perhaps a complex mixture of both. Some people who identify as AGP say that transition helped them regardless. Anne Lawrence was one of them and she was not alone. 

I read a comment lately from a transgender woman who stated that she knew there was much more to her situation despite any occasional sexual overtones she experienced. She found that she had to lead her life anchored in identity and the vast majority of the time she was connected to it without sexuality being in any way in the driver's seat.

The problem for older people is that the presence of sexuality outside of a heterosexual relationship was taught to be a disqualifying signal of dysfunction. Ingesting that meant a greater likelihood in believing that their struggle was not anchored in a search for identity. Thus they were more prone to present to gatekeepers without mentioning it at all or forsake the idea of transition altogether. If they went to the CAMH in the 1980's they were likely to become reinforcement for Ray Blanchard's accusatory dossier as one of only two possible typologies. 

Some people most definitely use cross gender expression primarily as part of a way to express a sexual appetite but only they know it.  Looking past that to see if something deeper exists is the hard part of the equation. 

My point is that the mere presence of sexuality is not a disqualifying obstacle in going further into the psyche to see what lies beyond the surface.