Relax

If I can implore you to do anything in public it is to relax. I don't mean pretend to do so but to actually achieve it.

People don't care about you and once that is firmly understood things will go so much better. That this is not always easy at first is an understatement but people will ultimately respect someone who knows who they are and is self assured in their body language.

Learning to do this when we are older and have been closeted can seem overwhelming at first but you will find it gets better fast once you plunge into those waters. For me it made the most drastic difference of all and I know it will do the same for you. In fact, I continue to relax into myself more and more each day.

Everything is between the ears but keep that nasty glare handy just in case as it's sometimes required.