Rock and a hard place

I've written many times about the often rock and a hard place scenarios of older transgender people. Since many came to self discovery slowly over their lifetime, they were suddenly faced with a choice of fidelity to a marriage versus embracing authenticity. Today the young will thankfully not be faced with such a prospect.

You may already have noted that I am not referring to androphilic transsexuals here who typically had a different road.

What is interesting is that back when my marriage was disintegrating, I would have settled for much less than what I have now because even a drop of water on the tongue to someone who is thirsty is considered a blessing.

Some people are able to keep an uneasy balance with cross gender expression sufficiently spaced not to perturb while others see their marriage survive transition because a spouse sees more than gender. Regardless, it is not an obvious thing to go through this well into the life of a relationship and hardly fair to a spouse who may feel justifiably that they have been deceived even if there was never such intent .

I am confident that this is now a thing of the past in that coming out early will avoid surprises down the road. Young transitioners will find partners who make a choice willingly while other gender variant people will simply express themselves as they will without needing to hide.

Alternatively there is nothing wrong with being single.