Only we know

As my retirement adaptation period comes to a close, this blog may be coming to a logical conclusion. My journey began around age 4 when I began to realize something was up with my gender and, as I approach 63, there is not much more to say regarding gender dysphoria and its management. Other than that I could write about politics or life in general which may or may not persist. 

Have I completed my gender transition? For all intents and purposes I have as no physical alterations are in store. My upstairs neighbor and friend commented recently during our outing about the very positive mental changes she has seen in me over the last 6 years since we met. She knows how surgical I have been and how the introspection has helped me arrive at a baseline that transgender youth today take far less time to achieve having been spared the baggage we had to carry. 

Understanding how we need to live is the most important aspect which must be understood almost in a vacuum and disregards the opinion of others. The exercise must be brutally honest and devoid of influence which may push us in a particular direction. If we were to base our identity on the changing definitions over the last few decades, we would realize what a mistaken strategy this would be.

Who we are isn't decided by a label, poll or by comparison but instead via an internal compass that avoids groupthink. 

Only we have the answer.