True lives

Of course most gender variant people have had varying levels of trouble with love. I know of very few who haven't (unless living in almost complete repression) with the stronger your dysphoria and need to do something about it, the more that it becomes a minefield. Even my friend Sherry whose transition at 25 allows her to live in stealth has struggled with the guilt about not telling her partner.

Since gender is such a fundamental building block of our existence, contravening it can produce very negative reactions. Young Brianna Ghey lost her life at 16 because of its effect on two misguided teens who were one year her junior.

Most people would tolerate a gender variant or transgender friend but as a partner it's a toss up which is generally in disfavor. So we decide who we are first and proceed with that as priority letting the beacon of authenticity do the talking. If nothing else we are living true lives.