To summarize

I can almost summarize all my years of reflection and research on gender variance into one post.

Firstly, the perfect binary does not exist and never did. Human beings are subject to the same variability that nature is which means that there are permutations which organically and predictably occur without fail at both psychological and physical levels.

Secondly, people tend to want to please by concensus. They don't want to be singled out and be ridiculed and so they go with the flow or fashion secret lives so they can get a taste of their natural proclivities.

Thirdly, people are afraid and insecure and living an honest life is difficult but should be highly desirable. The only way often involves abandoning convention which means the sooner we do away with concern for what the masses think, the more honest our existence will be.

Ideally, at a certain point in life we decide to forge our own path and become ourselves because we are fed up with being sheeple.