By contrast

Sometimes contrast can help us discover who we are. We can meet different people and at least come to a consensus about who we are not, which can be extremely helpful. For example, someone who expresses themselves happily once a month will contrast sharply against a person who must live authentically daily because it is deeply rooted in identity.

There is no right answer here, only ours and through stages of experimentation we come to understand who we are. As we get closer to a target, our peace of mind and stability increases because we are arriving at our core.

The other sign is that once we are at a certain plateau, not only do we not want to go back but we are physically unable to do so because it would induce suffering.

You will note how I am not using any terminology here because it does not matter.