The mental attic

I noticed in myself that when I was largely in hiding it was helping to create a negative psychology that was working against my optimal mental wellness. When something about you isn't adopted fully and kept marginalized you are potentially creating a pocket of unwellness which can then encourage aberrant behaviour or at least psychology.

If some gender variant people are into infantilized, hyper-sexualized behaviour or being humiliated I think perhaps it is because they have kept their affinity for cross gender expression in a kind of mental attic. In other words, it has been viewed as something secret and dirty when in fact it should never have been. It could have been explored differently but it wasn't; most often through no fault of their own..

Of course not everyone is like this but older people were certainly more prone to develop this psychology because gender variance was considered something so abnormal that they bought into the narrative themselves. They sold themselves the idea of fetish perhaps largely unwittingly.

When I was in my twenties I would sometimes see men dressed as women looking conspicuously like they had just robbed a bank wheras today youth flaunts their cosplay whether they are transgender or not. 

Clearly the latter has an infinitely greater chance of avoiding psychological blockages or trauma.