The main driver

Everyone possesses a unique combination of expression and identity where ideally the latter drives the former. In other words, expression is the result of who we feel we are. The opposite could imply that we are deluding ourselves unless of course we simply admit to gender play as our primary motivation.

Understanding this formula within ourselves is key because without an honest appraisal we won't know who we really are and what we need to do or not do. It is not remotely easy for many of us which is why it can take years to resolve the mystery.

However, without this knowledge, labeling oneself is not going to be even remotely helpful especially in this era of very elastic definitions.