The root of the problem

I know what the problem is.

In the past, breaking gender norms was viewed to the point of being criminal offense. You could be arrested for it in many places in the world. Many people ended up taking it underground.

Fast forward to today and with the flood gates open some are confusing expanded expression with issues of identity. This is why some youth are transitioning and changing their minds when they realize it was fine all along to be a lesbian and masculine woman.

The definition of transgender is of course part of the problem here because this greatly expanded tent can tempt some into thinking that falling under it should open the door to certain paths others have taken. Each path is unique and a definition on its own isn't a life action plan.

My generation and older suppressed and had few options open to us. Some people with gender dysphoria (such as myself) married and started families while others transitioned in stealth and married men some of whom did not know their history. Others still, joined secret dressing clubs just to get access to the relief of expanded expression.

So the root of the problem has always been the very restrictive rules around what men and women are supposed to do. Without them in place many would have suffered much less trauma and found healthier and less stressful paths hopefully with support of friends and family. But society is full of obedient and fearful sheep.

Today thankfully we have an open playing field where some are taking very fruitful action while a smaller faction is correcting admitted mistakes which is how the world has always worked. I would much rather have possibility of failure than doors permanently locked.

In general most people (including many gender variant people) are not particularly well versed in this topic. I regularly see theories explained by people who don't understand them because they are still mired against trying to defend against ignorant opinion. Gender criricals are continuing to make our reaching a more equitable and charitable world harder to achieve in part because we have politicized sex and gender to such an excessive degree.

People are generally not clever animals because they are constantly trapped in fear that limits their vision. They will always find reason to hate minorities that scare them and challenge them. Our job as individuals is to do our part to calm the waters and make them realize they are falling for moral panics.

Our unique paths as gender variant people should place an emphasis on what brings us peace and harmony achieved through complete self-acceptance. Without the latter we will not move forward because in our minds we will always be 'less than' which will impact many of our life decisions.

We ignore mass opinion and do what is right for us.