Correlation

Here I want to touch on the correlation between compromise and choice. My assertion being that the less choice you have the less compromise you can agree to. Gender variance is a broad topic and whereas some people achieve a kind of balance between expression and being in a committed relationship, others find this to be virtually impossible.

Trans people today come out far earlier and don't need to face the dilemma of having a reveal in their 30's or 40's. I am speaking here of course mostly about gynephilics since androphilics align their identity with their sexual orientation.

Since we are all so unique, recognizing that you are compromising your core identity versus what might only be sporadic (or even regularly timed) cross gender expression isn't always easy to recognize through the introspection process. At some point and with enough persistence the truth hopefully rises to the surface.

What I am saying is that compromising who you are might  perhaps be ill advised. But then only you can say.