Playing your hand correctly

Gender variant people have always risked overplaying or underplaying their hand. They may assume there is much more going on or conversely ignore signals that something is seriously up with their core gender identity. If it were easy it wouldn't be life because very little about our existence is. 

I see both scenarios: transitioners who thought the better of it later as well as those whose cross gender expression was seen as just another treasured facet of themselves except that there was eventually considerably more than first met the eye.