Desire

To not desire anything is probably the ideal state. This way there is no gap, no missing element for us to be at peace. We live in the moment and let life present us with surprise.

We suffer less when we eliminate desire for something we think will make us more content. If you've lived long enough you know that the buzz wears off quickly and then the search for the next one begins. We need a distraction to prevent us reflecting on our mortality.

Being more at peace with the self is a prerequisite here because wishing something intrinsic about us were different can become a trap of self-flagellation.