What is more important

Long ago I stopped writing about the mechanics of being transgender. How I make up my face or what I wear on my body took a back seat to the more important understanding of how to adapt the psychology to daily living after having been raised to reject one's nature from a young age. 

Gender variant people are unique beings who run a gamut of expression and identity which obliges that they adopt different responses. Some are deeply challenged with identity conflicts while others regale in sporadic expression and don't need to plunge into introspective angst regarding what to do. 

How I live my life today on a pragmatic level has been streamlined such that there is little difference between myself and a woman of a similar age. Even there we find significant variety in taste and preference. 

After a while we settle into a balance of comfort and style which reflects the reality of spending hours doing something where adding pain would detract from the experience. Thus purchases now are weighed with that foresight in mind. 

For example, I am now on the hunt for a new backpack purse; a type that has saved my posture and eliminated shoulder pain I once had with other types of bags. Here again, style and comfort are weighed such that I can favor feminine styles while sparing my back and shoulders. In general life is a balance act where we make compromises to achieve an overall good. 

Recently I have been receiving comments from women (including one sitting next to me in the metro) on a bracelet I purchased for $4 at a thrift store. I thanked them while knowing that the balancing act of cost and visual appeal had been wholly respected.

But in the end the most important thing for me was embracing authenticity by dealing with my dysphoria out in the open thus elevating self-respect. 

Whatever formula does that for you is the correct one.