Years ago in my old blog, I posed the question of what normal was but my mistake had been regarding my assumptions about the baseline coordinate system. At that time I saw being transgender as more objectionable and something to be mitigated to better fit in.
As I grew in my understanding of self and society in general, I realized that most people have something objectionable to others plus the lack of critical thinking in the world was off the charts. People behaved to fit in rather than to be genuine and their fear is what governed much of their reality.
This realization slowly morphed my outlook on divergences from accepted baselines which included the gender binary.
I changed my viewpoint to emphasize the idea of seeking personal truth while upholding self-respect, mental wellness, transparency and integrity which should take priority over adherence to a largely irrational society. In other words, you do what you need to uphold these important tenets.
My son's neuro-divergence is also viewed in this light. It is merely a difference.
What is normal for you?
For so long I treated my femininity like something to fix. Like I had to manage it to seem normal. But normal by whose rules?
ReplyDeleteEventually I realized—trying to blend in was making me miserable. I’d rather be honest, even if it’s messy. That feels more me.
You are on the right track my dear ;))
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