This morning I was invited for a 7:30 light breakfast at the residence of Sonia and her partner Rene who are both in their early to mid 70's. She and I met by happenstance at the Jean Talon market where he hit off and now meet once a week there for coffee.
The reason for the early visit was because of the current transit strike which obliges we work around it.
Sonia knows nothing of my history which I don't feel obliged to share because it's not immediately relevant to our friendship. Still, meeting her husband this morning at their place reminded me of how stressful meeting new people can sometimes be for transgender folks. We can be tempted to brace for impact when it is not warranted.
The public will take you at face value with the caveat being that you know who you are. In other words, if you doubt it so will they and it will impact your mannerisms, your speech and your facial expressions which will betray something is off. I know because I lived it for a very long time.
People can tell.
It was a perfectly lovely visit with two very nice people and I was as relaxed as I could be because I was just being myself.
The moral of the story is always the same and we should just relax into authenticity and let the universe take care of the rest.
Trust me on this :)
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