Just be

Stepping away from binary thinking is the best thing you can do if you are a gender variant or transgender person. Firstly it takes the pressure off "passing" because it doesn't matter. You are simply embracing and being yourself. 

If your cross gender expression moves beyond a past time or a guilty pleasure it will benefit you to work your psychology to where today's youth already is. 

Once that baseline coordinate system is abandoned you think of yourself primarily as a person who belongs somewhere within a continuum or a mosaic which frees the mind greatly. 

If blending in is your goal I don't blame you but we just need to remove pressure from attaining something which can encourage obsession or at the very least become an over distraction. 

Today I passed a young transgender woman who blended perfectly (including some very ample breasts) except for her booming baritone voice. She didn't care and neither did those around her.

Just be.