The script

As we get older we realize that our lives should have been less scripted. We aimed for goals which were either not attained or were but perhaps disappointed. What should have happened was an openness of spirit which involved less expectation as to how our lives should go in favor of a little more trust in the sometimes benign chaos of the universe.

Here I exclude our need for a job or career which keeps a roof over our head and food on the table. 

As the eldest in a large family there was lots of expectation and I learned to think that my life was going to go in a certain direction; a premise which turned out to be partly incorrect. Yes I had a long and successful career in my profession but many other things came as surprises which derailed because they perturbed my sense of order.

Now I know better of course and leave the expectations at home.

The subtlety in letting life surprise and allow us to roll with the punches turns out to be the right way.