Value

Understanding our value can be very difficult since so much about this world involves comparison and adherence to societal benchmarks. It's almost as if we want to measure it in a vacuum outside of what the world considers important. 

In fact, that is exactly what we need. 

Our true value is about the core principles of honesty, integrity, empathy, honor, dignity and other aspects which elevate the person and which often have little to do with what society looks for. If we shoot for that standard we will somehow never measure up to it. 

I understood this intellectually for years but not as viscerally as I do today because it takes living to concrete it in the psyche. I was partly trapped in the same bubble as everyone else who tries to keep up with a system which was already set up well before I was born and mistakenly assumed was mostly correct. 

If we human beings often lack confidence in ourselves it is because the system is rigged such that we always feel less than. This will be even more pronounced if we don't naturally fit the model we were told to follow. Hence we squeeze ourselves into pretzels trying to abide by the rules until we become fatigued by them. 

Once we disengage we start to see ourselves differently and independent from what the world wants from us; this includes partners, family and friends.

We become finally and truly ourselves.

           Cafe in Gamba (rue Laurier)