Matching energy

Some people aren't the least bit shy and so we can be called upon to sometimes match their energy. I will be sitting in the metro and they will almost invade your personal space as they look at the metro map right behind your head. 

If you squirm uncomfortably they will pick up on your fear and discomfort. 

Depending on the person I will either smile or give them a slight frown to signal that they are infringing too close. The same goes for people who love to stare at others. 

This morning I was on the metro sitting next to people about my age going to see the Montréal marathon and their speaking Spanish made them notice that my attention was piqued. A friendly smile on my part opened up a short discussion with the two women and the man who ended up being very nice. 

All this to say that matching energy becomes important such that we protect our space and dignity while at the same time being able to open the door to the right people.

The public can tell when we are in the right head space. It's like we give off a scent.