The sweet spot

I have discovered over the years that the sweet spot involves not thinking about yourself in terms of a gender. I don't mean calling yourself gender fluid or bi-gender but primarily to think of yourself as you and stop there. 

Splitting yourself into halves is even worse because it plays into stereotypes where you are playing a role in either guise. Ostensibly you are either playing the role of man or woman and we aren't performing seals but instead individuals. We risk being caricatures instead of being authentic.

No, the ultimate formula is to think about your essence and your authenticity decoupled from the definitions of society. You become yourself in isolation of those obligations which is the doorway out. Your psychology around this issue matures as a result.

This is particularly relevant if you have no plans to transition.

Once that mindset is nestled in your brain you have hit the sweet spot.