There's an old joke about the patient going to the doctor and lamenting "Doc it hurts when I do that" only to hear the doctor reply "then don't do that"
It reminds me of the simplistic messaging that some people are prone to give thinking it will help us. They don't understand someone else and use pop psychology to reduce the problem to "just get over it"
Most people don't comprehend what others go through and so they rely on a stiff upper lip suggestion that may have worked for them on some other issue. They don't intrinsically comprehend and so offer simplistic advice instead of a friendly ear and some empathy.
People mean well I suppose.
Perhaps because I am a very complicated person I don't appreciate reductive advice based on a presumption of understanding the problem. I prefer that if you can't relate, you just offer to earnestly listen.
The world doesn't operate on nuance but prefers to offer buzzwords and slogans so people can move on. You get an email from HR with suggestions on reducing stress while at the same time the company culture encourages it with its frantic chaos.
"There, there" they tell you "we understand. Just breathe deeply".
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