Looking around

Too much focus on the self can be unhealthy; just as much as not enough can be. 

We want to find a balance between being an asset to others while not abandoning our own psyche; probably one of the most difficult things to do in this life. 

Focusing too much on the self can lead to narcissism where that excess energy would be best served in being of service to others. When we have a personal riddle to solve we can turn it into an endless cyclone of energy which prevents us from looking outwards at the bigger picture. 

I feel that getting rid of much of our self-conciousness is a big part of the answer. We stop dissecting how people perceive us and are then more free to calmly look around.