A friend of mine tells me he has an upcoming date with someone he connected with online. He's 65, divorced and open but not remotely desperate. We have known each other for 40 years; well before either of us had married.
This past April marked 10 years since I've been on my own with the desire to be in a couple only waning steadily over that time.
I know myself much more, I understand very well the complexities of relationships and technically speaking I am a transsexual which only adds complexity to an already complicated area of human affairs.
Other people don't make you happy. Only we can do that but in the best case scenarios we can meet someone who we have a deep affinity with; someone who makes us want to be a better person for them.
As we age we increasingly recognize the people who don't fit that criteria. It's not about finding perfection but about a connection that cannot entirely be explained which transcends the fleeting attraction I haven't felt for anyone in years.
It's not about someone we desire but about someone we didn't know could elevate us so in a myriad of ways.
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