Chances

Growing up I learned to be extremely judgemental of people. After all, I was harsh and demanding on myself so why give someone else the courtesy of dropping the standards I held myself to. 

The problem with this approach is that we become intolerant and don't give people a chance. We determine they fall short of our measuring stick and dismiss getting to know them better. 

However with age and experience comes discernment and we learn what signs to look for. This doesn't mean everyone is best friend and confidante material, but we also don't quite so readily put people into boxes based on a rash assessment. 

As we hopefully become more forgiving and less critical of self, we offer others the same chances.