Agency

The nature versus nurture debate has been going on forever. The inputs that go into creating a human being are understood to be sourced in both genetic predisposition as well as in social influences. 

We just don't know the exact proportions of each. 

However, being the product of both doesn't mean we don't have some agency over the process because we do. We can work on ourselves and allow the brain's neuroplasticity to create a modified version of the self. 

New neural pathways are created which negate the idea that we can't change when we indeed can. 

At the same time we should acknowledge that no one is going to come to our rescue. No specialist is going to rid us completely of childhood trauma or some other issue we need to repair. Here we are going to have to be our own best resource which we always are. 

Therefore the inputs go in (including all the messy little errors of our parents) and we then take the reins for the rest of the way.

Plenty of people use distractions such as over consumption to skip this part which is a shame because a lived life is one worthy of examination.