Wholeness

There are most definitely psychological consequences to a secret life. However that doesn't automatically mean we spill our guts to everyone we meet about things that don't concern them. 

The aim is to achieve wholeness and authenticity with self-respect as an anchor. 

The problem is that secrecy has a tendency to bolster shame and guilt which can greatly hinder self-respect. Therefore a balancing act should be sought which says that "my life is my business" without feeling that any part of our humanity is cause for embarrassment and shame should anything about it be divulged. 

If we don't fix that we will not attain optimum wholeness.

This does not mean  for example, that transgender people living in stealth come out to everyone. If they have their integrity and sense of self intact, they might be better off not doing so; especially in the current stupid environment.