We worry about ourselves

I know perfectly well why I used to get a little irritated by some gender variant people. It's because they seemed to see something as a game which for me was deeply serious. This blockage was something I eventually needed to let go of under the explanation that gender variance covers a wide range of behaviour and meaning to each person.

I had frustration rooted in inability to resolve my own dilemma vis a vis living the way I needed to. So while I would meet people who seemed to view their gender variance as a kind of sport, for me my issues hinted far more towards an identity I was afraid to explore more deeply. 

I eventually came to the conclusion that we compare ourselves to no one and wish them the very best to boot. For their lives, experiences and desires are entirely their own.