Worth it

Going to this wedding was absolutely the right call. Everyone was great with me including the person I was most concerned about. The entire time I didn't get so much as a second look and there must have been over 200 people there. 

Danielle the bride gave me a hug and with a very earnest expression said "im so glad you're here. You belong here and by coming you are saying this is who I am" 

I think that many people could not tell I am transgender but if they did it wouldn't matter as I am well past the point in my life of needing to worry about it.  The proof is that the interactions I had were wonderful. 

As I was leaving, my sister told me that my brother's wife had made a fuss about me coming as my authentic self. She is the kind of limited religious person who has trouble with subtle issues that don't fit her black and white world view. However my sister and brother in law's "what would Jesus do" intervention seemed to have worked as she sat next to me at the reception and we interacted very well. If she was pretending then so be it as people's opinions don't concern me. 

Others don't get to choose who we are. 

That's up to us.