Connection

Fear of vulnerability is almost universal and if we have been wounded before, it will be even harder for us. 

However, having the capacity to be vulnerable is the only way to make deep and meaningful connections. 

Being your true self warts and all in front of another person requires courage. We expose our fragility and they do the same building a bond which transcends our sense of individuality 

It is a thing painfully rare to possess. 

I have understood this over my lifetime as I have reflected on the way I connected with people. I had not let them in completely but instead focused on fulfilling a designated role I didn't allow myself to fail at. 

That leaves less room for vulnerability. 

Many relationships function at a level that avoids people being genuine and true to themselves because that requires self-knowledge and more importantly love of self. 

We need to get to the core of the person that exists below the surface; under the hurts and the programming received during the formative years. 

No easy task.