Buyer beware

Older transgender people are right to be reticent about relationships (presuming they aren't in one). The people that they pair with were just as programmed as they were regarding sex and gender which means that whatever progress they have made on their own risks being compromised or even reversed. 

There are many things that can be negotiated but who you are isn't one of them. In that sense, at this age I am an immovable object simply because it took so long to get here. 

For youth it's a different story since their approach to sex and gender is infinitely more malleable. You could say they haven't been spoiled through an indoctrination which made our lives considerably more difficult. 

A 25 year old Gail (who I met last year) didn't have an issue with her partner's transition which in my era would have almost certainly meant instant rejection.

At this age I also know that I am responsible for my own well being and happiness. If anything, as a natural problem solver, I might end up being a fixer for someone else's trauma in addition to bending the knee on the identity front. 

I've met and know of couples where the existing gender variance is tolerated and even celebrated but I'm too far along on the spectrum and I would very much suffer were I to be put in their situation.

Not to mention, I simply know too much about life.