End goal

No matter the type of gender variance involved, the deeper questions need to be answered: Is this more about expression or identity? Is this something I should want to control and why? Is this something which has always been intrinsic to me since the beginning or am I just experimenting and having fun with it? 

Without answers to these and other similar questions we cannot build a road map towards action. We will not understand the end goal or whether one should even exist. 

Some people say "I just like to feel pretty sometimes" which is innocuous enough but then it could increasingly become life occupying. That statement can also be an underestimating of how deep our sentiments run. 

When we are proceeding in the right direction we should be increasing life balance and a sense of calm. That doesn't mean that achieving authenticity won't come with tempestuous times because divulging something can imply risk and risk is something older people are less willing to undertake. 

Our lives are our own and living them in fear of judgement isn't the right way. Secrecy also has impacts for the psyche that can be quite harmful which I myself experienced. 

So we ask the deeper questions to establish our motives and our end goals to better understand ourselves and what we must do (or not do) going forward. 

What we don't want to have is stagnation which means we've stopped growing. This can lead to frustration and resignation that our lives are stuck. 

Instead we work towards self-knowledge until some sort of balance point is reached.

Gender variance has always been a normal part of the human mosaic. The tricky part is knowing where we reside and what we do.

It means answering the question "who are you?"