No distress

A lack of distress is a good indicator for us. Sometimes when I read comments or watch videos of people who readily identify with dysfunction, it's likely because there is some present.

Our mental health is a good indicator of being in a good place which often means being free of compulsive and destructive behaviors.

So we work on our psyches until things fall into place and that warm and fuzzy feeling in the gut tells us that we are okay. No, we are not free of all problems, but that we aren't at all confused at a visceral and fundamental level about who we are is a good thing.

After that, the opinions of others need not apply and they can all blow smoke out their arse for all we care.