Mostly for nothing

It would be elegant if we could say that all gender variance comes from the same source but we cannot because human beings are far too complex for that. 

Once you remove gender dysphoria as a source there is relaxation, sexual pleasure, desire to break social taboos, personal sense of style as well as other reasons which people use. It doesn't really matter so long as they are happy and free of distress. 

Breaking gender norms has brought many people much fear, discomfort, shame and guilt and mostly for nothing.

Fully yourself

In general I am interested in the elements which help people become fully themselves. What is it which finally takes them over the edge or what aspects were contained in their psychology to begin with? 

I fall into the fatigue category which took me past a point of no return but it wasn't built in. I had to fight to get here once my disdain for feeling trapped took over. Of course I was fully programmed from birth to reject instinct.

Part of the answer lies in indoctrination where the looser the parenting style the more apt the child was to find their originality and dispel fear of standing out. There is also societal climate which cannot be ignored.

This morning I was talking to a young woman I know and asked her if she ever wore dresses. She told me she likes them but feared standing out in a crowd and so she dresses more to assimilate just a bit. Now in her early twenties, it makes perfect sense because our fortitude to buck the trend isn't quite fully formed. She tells me she loves being a girl and I encouraged she find the times to celebrate it.

One dimension voting

I have members of my family who think in terms of limited scope when it comes to politics. My religious sister and my brother's wife both want Trump to win based on the abortion issue alone. 

This bothers me still even as it no longer perplexes. People vote with little information and often uni-dimensionally. They will grab a single issue or even just say I don't trust Harris and hate the way she laughs. It is not intelligent voting but it works for them. 

I would then offer that if they are so Christian they should also be concerned with the party that tends to better look after the disenfranchised. Once that baby is born to a poor mother the GOP couldn't care less about its fate which is the ultimate height of hypocrisy.

I would ask them both basic questions about how US politics works and they would be stumped. Nevertheless they are very firm in their views which enrages my better informed 88 year old mother who then calls me to vent.